Love & Respect is rooted in (However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.) to find why it is that men and women often have trouble communicating in relationships with one another. The premise is that women desire to be shown they are loved whereas men are more focused on feeling respected. This is not to say that men do not desire love nor that women have no need for respect, but rather, that each gender has a different emphasis and, thus, there can be something “lost in the translation” when going from male to female and vice versa.
While I am as of yet unmarried, I have had girlfriends with whom there have been times where, despite earnest efforts on both our parts, there was a fundamental communication breakdown that left us both feel, well, crazy. Dr. Eggerichs aptly refers to this as the “Crazy Cycle” (without love she reacts without respect; without respect he reacts without love; without love… well, you get the idea!). Reading this book gave me great insight into how better to communicate with not only my girlfriend, but also women in my life in general. I realized why I misunderstood what women have tried to communicate to me in the past and how I can better express myself so as to ensure that what I intend to say is received correctly (so that the words that come out of my blue megaphone can be understood through her pink hearing aid without getting drowned out by gender static).
Grounded in biblical truth and psychological research, Dr. Eggerichs successfully conveys his message in an easy to read format that is as entertaining as it is insightful. I would recommend this book to anyone who has ever been in a failed relationship and hopes to someday be in one that works!
While I am as of yet unmarried, I have had girlfriends with whom there have been times where, despite earnest efforts on both our parts, there was a fundamental communication breakdown that left us both feel, well, crazy. Dr. Eggerichs aptly refers to this as the “Crazy Cycle” (without love she reacts without respect; without respect he reacts without love; without love… well, you get the idea!). Reading this book gave me great insight into how better to communicate with not only my girlfriend, but also women in my life in general. I realized why I misunderstood what women have tried to communicate to me in the past and how I can better express myself so as to ensure that what I intend to say is received correctly (so that the words that come out of my blue megaphone can be understood through her pink hearing aid without getting drowned out by gender static).
Grounded in biblical truth and psychological research, Dr. Eggerichs successfully conveys his message in an easy to read format that is as entertaining as it is insightful. I would recommend this book to anyone who has ever been in a failed relationship and hopes to someday be in one that works!
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